Last night we had a little tiff with Tiffany. It was over a matter of her submission of her swimming cert to her school as this was her external cca for last year - for her school records, as she doesn't have any cca. (She had a couple like violin, classical indian dance and adventure club, but they were all like at most 1 year or so, and doesn't have any cert to proof her attendance. However luckily they were organised by the school, so perhaps they'll have records of her attendance). Anyway, it was important for her as part of her primary school leaving cca records, otherwise she would not have any ccas recorded for primary school.
Since today was the 1st day of school after a week's break (due to PSLE marking), she dropped a bomb on us by saying she can't find the cert and student companion with the note to teacher. And this matter has been dragging for like 3 weeks already, before the PSLE started till now.
I mean, she can be laid back, but to the extend of her own matter, it was disappointing to us that she doesn't take her personal matter seriously...this is her only cca for P5 and she doesn't even have a cca in P6 due to the pressures of studies.
Hence, I blew my top at her. I had been following up on her on this matter for 3 over weeks and now she tells me she's lost it! Bert was more mad than me. I didn't realised he hit her and confiscated her MP3 player till he apologised to her this morning. I myself felt so bad last night. She was already asleep. One of her eyelid had eyelash thickened with dried tears. I was so afraid she'll run away because she was mad with us. I was so tempted to keep her ezlink card, but on second thoughts decided not to. In case she does decide to run away, at least she has money and not be dependant on others, and she can easily come home to us.
Anyway, she suddenly remembered she had already submitted her cert and note from us to her teacher. I mean, this just got me madder...she had unnecessarily brought this onto herself. After Tiffany had gone to sleep and Feli sat up with me to watch TV, she was leaning her ear to my chest and commented my heart was pumping very fast. I told her perhaps it was due to my anger with Tiffany. I have to watch my health too. I asked Feli what to do, and my fear that her sis will run away. Feli told me she was worried too that Tiffy would run away and told me to apologise to Tiffy and best to keep her ezlink card. I asked Feli to ensure her sis took the school bus home with her today. I then teased Feli that wouldn't she be happy to be without a sis since they both are always arguing. Do you know what she said? "No, I want my sister. Or else I have no one to fight with!"
This morning, I told Tiffany how much I love her. She says she knows yesterday when I brought them out to Centrepoint. I was supposed to get something for myself for my birthday present, but because things were not cheap and not to my liking, I ended up buying halloween t-shirts for them, and letting them eat tea-time at Long-John Silvers and buying nothing for myself. She realised how much I love them and especially her (she got 2 t-shirts and Feli 1, and she got what she wanted for tea-time as I was concerned she didn't have a good lunch yesterday).
I told her my fear she'll run away, but she assured me she won't. I told her we were angry with her behaviour, and she was so sweet, she said she'll try harder to remember things better from now on.
Disciplining is a fine balancing act. We love our kids so much we always want the best for them, yet we are afraid we are too hard on them, we will "push" them away from us. At times like this, I pray to Mother Mary and Papa Joseph for their help and guidance in guiding our children the Godly way.
Just my VERY chonghay sharing and 2 cents worth of thoughts. Thanks for reading thus far.
Love Theresa
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