Feli and I watched "Sweet Tapioca Porridge" over TV5 tonight (Sun). It started out a bit slow, but later on was interesting and touching.
It talks about finding true love in our materialistic and instant pleasure seeking world.
A guy named Hock Seng is jaded by a girl. He meets a simple girl (forgot her name...ah something) who befriended him because she knew he was jaded and felt sorry for him. She offered him friendship and their friendship slowly blossomed to 1st love for both of them. The unsure glances and fearful attempts to hold each others hands reminds me of my blossoming relationship with Bert. The girl said it very aptly, when she was asked by the guy if she had any previous boyfriends: I don't know. When I was 11, I had a 13 year old friend who is a boy who always played with me. One day, he asked me what was my fav food. I told him "Sweet Tapioca Porridge". The next day, he gave me 6 slices of sweet tapioca with porridge and I ate it up hungrily. I nevered asked him why 6 slices and he never told me why he gave them to me. The next day, he and his family left. I guess I'll never know how he felt about me as he never said anything to me.
I reminds me of chances we miss in life because we are too afraid to say how we feel because of ego and pride. Ego is hurt when we are rejected. But on looking back, there's a saying that it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved before. Sometimes it's also pride that prevents us from making the 1st move to reconcile with our loved ones. We think that to make the 1st move is to admit one is wrong.
Friday's ST had an article on what are men and women ranking of the 7 deadly capital sins that was published by a priest from the Vatican. The highest for men is Lust followed by Gluttony. For women, the 1st ranking is Pride followed by Envy. However, ALL 7 sins are found in both men and women.
I have gone through some regrets in life for not being either brave enough to say how I feel or too proud to be the 1st to ask for forgiveness so as to be reconciled. Not being able to reconcile with someone that is already dead is a terrible feeling for me, and this had already happened twice before. So I guess I am a true woman...as I see these 3 incidents as an indication of Pride in me. I've learned alot from my hubby, Bert. He taught me to say how I feel (at least he knows when to talk and when he talks he doesn't talk nonsense!), and he always stood by me, a pillar of strength, never judgemental of my actions or decisions, supporting me although he may not agree with me. You can call him the strong silent type of man...someone I can rely on all the time. I thank him for having 1st choosen me and was brave enough to say so to me his feelings for me in those early days.
Feli asked me if finding the "right" one is difficult. I told her, of course it is. But when you find it, you have to hold fast to it and work at it to make it grow. Not everyone is lucky to find true love.
For those who didn't catch the movie, what happened next was Hock Seng found true love, but he allowed the norms of society and the jeers from friends about having an ah lian girlfriend to distance himself from her. He later realises that the friends and girls he is mixing with will not bring him true happiness as he is still lonely within. This loneliness only vanishes when he was with this girl and he came to realise he loves her. Of course the girl rejects him as she was hurt by his earlier rejections of her until her mum tells her sometime to the effect to act on things today for tomorrow may not come. She reflects back and remembers all the good stuff and joy she had felt and decided to forgive and give Hock Seng another chance.
The ending shot was interesting...it showed Hock Seng as a boy resting and watching a little girl (who was this Ah something girl when she was little) eating the sweet tapioca porridge which the 13 year old boy had given her. Sometimes in life, it's also the timing. Like when I was in NUS as a final year student, Bert was in 1st year but we never met. When I was working in NUS, he was still a, undergrad student in the same Faculty as I was working, but we never met. When he graduated from NUS and started to work, then we were introduced to each other. During the times when our boats passed each other so closely by, we were busy interacting with other people and relationships, so I guess the time was not right yet then, even if we had met. Is it fated? Maybe....but I strongly believed that it is God who brought us together.
So dear lovely LC couples, don't forget to tell your true love how much you love and appreciate them, yah?
Sorry for the very chong-hay sharing but it just brings back lots of sweet puppy-love and 1st love memories which I believe all of you have once gone through when you were much younger.
Love
Theresa
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