You must be wondering what happened to us...no updates to the LC blog, yah? The week before and during the March hols were really busy for us. My mum was admitted to hospital for 17 days!! Fortunately no surgery was needed. She went through a scope both from her throat and the bottom as she bled when she went to the toilet whilst in the hospital. The doctors can't find anything serious, but she has to follow up with the specialists doctors for her stomach. She actually had a very bad blackout a month plus back (I think I had shared that in my earlier blog) and since she keeps getting more frequent dizzy spells, she decided to have herself checked into the hospital.
They find out that she was having irregular heartbeats. Sometimes very very slow, sometimes superfast...that was what was causing the dizzy spells. As to what is causing that, they think it's due to the thickness of the blood, so they have given her an additional medicine to the already volumious amount of medicines she is already taking, to get her blood to the right thickness. For all the advances in medicine, the amount to be given is still a guesstimate....hence the long stay to take blood tests to check if the amount is right, and monitoring the heartbeat. The downside to this medicine is that this increases her chances of getting internal bleeding, hence she cannot fall or injure herself...hence also the reason for her long stay to give her body some chance to adjust to the new medicine and for the doctors to gauge the right amount of dosage. Very very scary decision to make.
Thank the Lord she was finally discharged today (Sun, 22 Mar 09). She still has at least 4 more followups with the hospital. What is worrying is that I also have my very old going to be 93 years old dad at home. Luckily, my very wise mum decided 1 and a half years ago, to get a maid (finally) to help her with the household chores so that she can take care of my dad. I think the strain of looking after him has taken a toil on her, as my dad totally depended on her for everything. I felt so sad that my once quite strong mum had to totally lean on me and walk so very slowly from the hospital to the car and back home. She cried with my dad when she talked to him, I just pretended nothing happened to give my old parents some private moment. They had never been a part from each other that long.
I sometimes wonder, is advancement in medicines a boon or a bane? Sometimes life is prolonged but it can be bittersweet. On one hand we want our loved ones to be with us as long as possible, yet when you see them suffer, you sometimes wish them a better life.
It's also tough being the sandwiched generation, yet we are so blessed to see true love between our parents. My parents are so lucky they don't need ME because they are already living ME in their daily lives. Albert has been such a fantastic son-in-law and husband during these trying and tiring days. He's such a treasure and it's so good to see my mum appreciating him and him being so happy. I know he does everything for my mum because of his great love for me and because my mum is a very nice and kind woman whom I hope to emulate.
It's kinda scary that we all have to go through this phase in life one day. As long as we are living, we have to go through suffering and grieving one day. That's the great mystery of life which even the saints cannot explain...that's why it's called a mystery.
Sorry for being so emotional. It's been a very emotional week plus the 2 girls still had to go back to school during the hols!! Can you believe it?? Don't know what's becoming of our lives...forever on the threadmill, running ever faster but getting no where and just to be on the same spot. No government knows what to do, except to make everyone (students as young as Feli - 8 years old!) more stressed out in the name of world competition. Sometimes, I think Tiffy's question of why must we be in the rat-race doesn't sound half so bad. She's enough stress as it is, so I try not to give her additional stress.
Enough mobid thoughts for tonight from me...thanks for reading.
Love Theresa
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