One of my daily dialogue experience with my spouse..

It seems that nowadays we have more things to talk about then a couple of years back when our children are still very young. Perhaps, now that they are more independent that we have more time on hand and hence more time to catch up with one another. Look at it from a different standpoint, we are getting older nowadays..ha!ha!.

Although we don't seem to be using the structured method as per ME instruction [too academic for us], but somehow we think our method works best for us. Our method is some how a "free and easy" one with the aim of getting in touch with our feelings. To be frank, we have not been following the ME method of dialoguing..but one thing for sure is that I enjoy the company of my spouse and that I think that is what matters to me.

Well, each couple is very unique, so I think what works for us does not necessarily works for others. But, hopefully it has some element of benefit to others though. As I typed this entry, I tried to think hard what actually is the contributing factors that has seen us being together for coming close to 15 years and here are some though not a complete list as we are still journeying on this path of the unbreakable bond of marriage.

To start with, I think listening is one of the key to our relationship.

I noticed that when we talk, we give each other ample time to digest the information that we trying to bring it across.

We pause as we talk. The tone we used is rather soft, maybe that is just our nature of talking so it helps a little. After so many years of talking, sometimes you just can sensed it that the spouse feelings without much talking.

Over the weekend, we dialogue about some of the future decisons to take: what to do with jurong apt, to shift or not shift piano from jurong or to sell the piano and if shift the piano, shift to where? mum-in-law's place or back to MP? [I know that the piano is something that Theresa holds dearly but for me shifting is a big hassle not to mentioned the cost of shifting from the west to the east] We still have not come to any answers yet but certainly it helps us understand each other feelings better, how we react, how we response etc.. I think through these kind of situations only then we can appreciate our spouse better and know our spouse better by the day because under this kind of situations that we really dialogue and the real feelings actually surfaced.

This entry is about listening. It has helps in our marriage and so I hope through this little sharing, there is some benefit to you too.
I will share with you on the other "key" that has help us in our marriage.

God Bless!

Albert Y